Living in the home with your Dom and the family

A few months ago we that is my Dom his "Queen" and their family and I had mad a choice of letting me move in with them. I help with bill as any normal house mate would do a long with house work and other things that are normal. As part of the swing life style "Queen" kids who live in the home and the grandchildren  know I am my Doms girlfriend some people are told I am the 2nd wife. We do not show the Dom/sub side to most of the house we feel it is not needed.
It is see by the outside world as just friends helping out and trying to make a dollar stretch as far as we can and that would be very true. The relationship is far more that Dom/sup  and the sex side of ether life style it is friends and partnership in every way. I am in no need to be a tag-along with them every where they go at times I love it when it is just me in the house. If you life in the middle of nowhere that is very nice. Also having someone to talk to at all times of the day, or night, a girls night out, someone to do my nails with and to share  the happy things as well as the bad.

Dom/Masters and safe words

i have been asked in the past why do subs/slaves have safe words, mine is "red". This is so in the heat of the moment if you need to stop or if your Dom/Master or the Dom/Master or whom He would give me to or if we are at a play party people will know something is wrong or to stop, i know most people hear stop and do just that, but at times some don't hear it. So if a safe word is put out there it makes them stop and ask what's up. i always let it be known, and have has to use it a time or two. A party we where at a few months back "Dear" was off playing "Queen" and i where at a table she was talking to a Master, another couple of the gust had came up and sat down by me. Before i go on, i need to say i have sensitive skin and bi-poler those together with a few drinks and horny sometimes not fun. Well earlier that night it was found out that light touch makes me jump and wiggle, so these two guys wanted to do this once more. i could not say stop i was shaking i tried to say red the ones who heard me was "Queen" and the other Master she asked me my safe word i said it then she told them to stop and that is what it was for. They started it once more i Yelled 'red" the Master that "Queen" was talking to looked up at me and with His eyes let me know He would stop them if they went on. They got the point at that time to stop.

So if any one is thinking about going in to this lifestyle or is in it and are told safe words are not going to be used run as fast as you can from that person. You can be hurt or killed if not, if the person is using a toy, whip, flogger, paddle, or anything you may not like or enjoy you need a safe word and a Dom/Master who will respect you when you use it.

Giveing myself to my Dom

This is somethings one does not do with out a lot of thought and trust on in both parties. I have a few Doms/Masters in my life. Some would say I was born a submissive and I have to say "yes". I was raised in a home wear you said "yes sir, no sir" and did as you wear told with out asking or you got beaten. I learned by see my older brother and sisters what not to do, but even then there wear the day even that didn't help.
But back to my gift." Dear" the Dom I have now I am very luck to have  he loves me and takes very good care of me. I have never been  hit or have to do any thing I really don't like. Last year around August some time he and I started dating after talking online for a few months this a good thing and we also text daring this time. It didn't start out as a Dom/sub relationship, but He knew i was a sub and we talked about this and at this time i wanted no collar. He and his wife are swinger and he was looking for someone to play with, and like my profile so that is what brought He and i together. I took sometime to think about being with a man that was married i have been there before sometimes it works  if the wife knows and it is a real "open marriage"and not what he said it. I have had that before too. I just happen to know his wife i will call her" his Queen" and we talked and she was ok with things she had a 'male friend'. Well in December we wear talking and He asked me what i wanted in our relationship i told Him " someone to care for me and to care for and that would Love me some time and i would Love too" He like that and wanted the same. They asked My daughter and i to come out to their home and share New Years with them and their family and we did. "Dear" and i talk in the hot tub that night about what the relationship would be and as i sat on the floor of the hot tub my hands in His bearing my all to Him. I was told what He would want of me, trust, love, caring, to be with Him and or whom every He asked me to be with and to tell Him who i would be seeing. That it i wear to be caught in a lie that would be it it would be over. I told Him yes to all. I am His girl now.
Some may think how can this work to answer to someone about everything, but that is a big part of the Dom/Master, sub/slave lifestyle is handing over that trust. I know "Dear" would never let any one harm me and if He would see that i was getting hurt He would step in. It is just not me He is doing this for my daughter looks up to Him and "Queen" and a mom and dad, they feel the same for her, my son does not know they as well, like them the same.
No "Queen" is not over me she respects what "Dear" and i have and we are friends as i with she and He. That is the way it works trust, i have told "Queen" that if i felt like i was over stepping my bounds i would step out of the relationship before i would hurt anyone. 

Now a little about me

I the first post was for a Dom.
Now about the life style you maybe asking who or what is a Dom, sub, and are there still swinger or what are swingers.
Doms : are a Person who is in control or takes care of a sub/slaves. They are also called Masters/Mistress',
they can be very harsh or soft, and some times in between.
They are male or female.
sub: are also know as slaves, as i am a sub, but have had a Master call me his slave.
Yes, as a sub i do not cap. the "i" for myself. or the word sub/slave. Why you may ask; it is in a way to respect our Dom/Masters /Mistress'. Not to pull our self's down. We have a little control our self's we can say yes or no to things we don't like. We are here to please those we are under.
More later.
The Swinger life: this is new to me,but I am liking it. No it is not a Orgy. It's adults some couples and singles  who get together as friends go to movies, dinner, one another homes, get to know each other, and yes we have sex.
We do a lot of things groups of friends do all the time, when it comes to the sex part our partners know we are with another person and they know them.
We care for our friends and their families, some do not share with their family or people their "life style" that's ok. Not everyone need to know. The people in the "life style" respect all choices.
I can say I am one who is out in my "life style" choice  and most of my family who know me are fine with this.

Guilty Pleasurs

The Guilty Pleasures I keep in side  my mind, they are hidden so deeply of yours and mine. Their sensual lingering for only me to see. The beauty of what you can only give to me. They are for no one else to see.

I need to come to you, even only in a dream.

I stand before you naked mind, body and spirit. Then give myself to only you.

To feel your hands, soft but firm on my skin sends waves of pleasures over my body all the way to my very soul.

Only you know what sensations you can make me feel.

You put me on your alter and show me the ways of creating what you want me to be, and to see all you have for me.

I give my all to you. I sacrifice myself only to you. You know the ways to make me show you my all.

When I can't feel your touch I am left craving them.

I need to know if you are real or even there.

You have told me what you see the beauty you can draw out in me. If I would just finally give my self over to you fully.

These are The Guilty Pleasures to be taken from time to time.